Consciously Learning...

While our personal experiences have informed much of our approach, we'd be lost without the great minds that have helped shape our direction with their expertise. Do you want to be the best cohabimate you can be? Here are some of our favorite, most trusted must-reads.

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By: Wednesday Martin

By: Wednesday Martin

Powerful challenge to the establishment gender definition of women, and equally important read for both men and women. Meticulously researched, Martin presents a new way of thinking about women and their sexual roles. Guaranteed to provoke new understanding about how women have been misrepresented and defined within relationships and society. (PCC)

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By: Gary Chapman

Chapman's Love Languages are almost universally referred to as the foundational relationship tool for couples. He breaks down how people give and receive love into five "languages": quality time, words of affirmation, physical touch, acts of service, and gifts. Every person experiences love from a different combination of these languages, and he teaches you how to recognize your partner's languages so that you can speak to each other in a way that is uniquely designed to appeal to the way that they want to be loved. (PCC)

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By: Susan Pease Gadoua and Vicki Larson

The authors take a fresh look at the traditional marriage within our modern society and offer ideas on approaches that may make more practical sense for our current culture. It's an open-minded approach to confronting the fact that almost half of marriages will end in divorce (not me, you say? So did we.) Until we accept the realities of our society and the impact that it has on our relationships, we are doomed to continue to repeat our current crisis. (PCC)

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By: Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas

This is an essential guide for when apologies need to be made. Chapman and Thomas take you through the elements of a meaningful apology, to allow you to fully express regret and demonstrate commitment to change. Moments that require apologies are unavoidable (it's a matter of when, not if), so this is required reading for all partners who put their union before their ego. (PCC)

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By: Wednesday Martin

Powerful challenge to the establishment gender definition of women, and equally important read for both men and women. Meticulously researched, Martin presents a new way of thinking about women and their sexual identity. Guaranteed to provoke new understanding about how women have been misrepresented and defined within relationships and society. (PCC)

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By: James Clear

This is an essential guide to consciously building good habits and eliminating bad habits.  What does this have to do with Cohabimating? Over time, relationships accumulate habits, which can either serve your relationship or harm it.  By applying the principles from Clear's book, couples can learn how to deliberately create good relationship habits and remove toxic ones. This is incredibly well researched and easy to read.  Every person interested in bringing their best self to the relationship should read this. (PCC)

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By: Marcus and Ashley Kusi

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By: Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, and Al Switzler